People are entering into wrong relationships which might end up as the worst marriage because of their personal needs or their urge for someone to help them develop themselves under the cover of love. Some ladies are in relationships with men today but deep in their hearts, they don’t love them, neither will they settle down with them as spouses, had it not been because of what they needed now. Some guys are in relationships because of an opportunity, a privilege, cash, car, etc, pretending he loves this lady and will marry her; but to him it is the last thing on his mind.
It is very true that no human being is perfect; everyone has a blemish, a blind spot, a shortfall and a weakness but that doesn't prevent you from having a perfect marriage; a marriage suitable for just you and your spouse. Being imperfect as an individual cannot stop you and your partner from becoming a perfect couple.
It's really sad to know that some people you put first in life, stop everything for, go out loud for and be there when they need you, only see you as a tool in their hand; as long they can use you, they treat you as an important person, and drop you at any point in time when they find someone better than you. It is heart breaking to know some people have no respect for relationships.
Someone once said to me, "sweet things are best enjoyed when you close your eyes", citing that as one of the reasons why some people close their eyes when they kiss; and this is also why people enjoy sleep when they are having sweet dreams. It is the same reason why some people close their eyes to everything when they fall in love. They pay deaf ears to all the warnings, advice and red flags.
The truth is, no matter how new your ride is or how smooth your road is, it is senseless driving with your eyes closed. You risk losing your life, not even a fool will do that.
Growing up, none of us liked some kind of teachers in our schools, especially during the earlier parts of our lives. These are teachers who will give us the worst punishment when we go wrong, just to make sure we get it right, yet they were our least favourite. As bad as we labelled them, looking back now, we can all be proud and say such individuals were some of the best things to ever happen to us. They taught us the hardest lessons, helped us get rid of bad habits, instilled discipline, good morals and character and good attitude in us.
It is sad to know that many marriages have become a garden of pains, spouses have hurt each other, not willing to forgive, living like roommates, filled with anger, regrets and bitterness. Such marriages are running out of love, the spouses are not sensitive and are heartless towards one another. If you find yourself in such a marriage, all hope is not lost, let the lesson from Easter restore your union.
It's amazing to see the so called ugly or not good looking women getting married to good men, whilst the presumed good looking, fascinating single women struggle to find a man of their own, not to talk of a husband. And they ask themselves, what's wrong with me? Am I under any curse?
Men are not God and can never be. God is superior. Men are not lords over women as many think, men are supposed to be head of their families, a husband, father and a friend. Your role as a leader is to serve. It isn't to use your position to intimidate your own family, abuse or cause them pains, but to bring them relief, smiles, hope, comfort and above all to love them.
It is said that the things we don't know is what is causing us and that statement is very true. We are having many problems in our world today because our current generation is so busy trying to prove that women can do what men can do. Women are so busy fighting for equality in everything and end up losing their uniqueness.
Let me tell you, women can never be equal to men, women are not equal to men because that’s how the Creator intended it. If the woman is just like the man and can do exactly what the man does, then there would be no sense in creating them.
There is one statement which always strikes me "Happiness is a choice"; and I believe there are a lot of people out there who may think otherwise about that. How are you supposed to be happy when people do things intentionally to hurt you? How are you supposed to be happy when people around you look for the least opportunity to bring you down?